Have you ever felt underappreciated and just a little sad when Mother’s Day comes around? You know because your kids are little and you’re single and no one is celebrating you like you want? I get it sister. And that is why I’m going to help you celebrate yourself. Don’t get me wrong. I love my boys and adored every tiny painted handprint, soggy bowl of cereal (their idea of breakfast in bed), and all the I love you mama’s down through the years, but sometimes a girl wants a little more. So, read on for 7 ways to treat you this holiday if you’re a single mom like me.
First of all, shift your mindset. Yes, single parenting is hard. Yes, it would be great to have a mate to do life with. But, you are here, you are powerful, and you are raising your babies. Give yourself some credit. This Mother’s Day, there will be no wishing for what you don’t have. There will only be celebrating you and what you do have and moving towards what you want.
To help this belief take root, you should journal about your experiences, your highs and lows, and how you’ve made it this far. Sometimes, you need to be reminded that you are a BOSS! Next, write down some affirmations to post daily to remind you of how amazing you are. See what I did there? You aren’t waiting to be celebrated. Celebrate yourself. Woo!
Just how can you take this self love party to the next level? Here are 7 things to bring some me time and some fun into your life that are in and outside of the box.
- Get a relaxing massage
It’s no secret I still have a full-time job while I build multiple businesses and so my feet need regular rubbing at least once a month. I do not want to hear “I can’t afford it.” Many places are running specials and have memberships. Check out Massage Envy or your local Spa. Chances are a little aromatherapy and some magic hands will have you woo-sahing in no time.
- Get a mani-pedi. I mean, need I say more? Take care of those hands and feet. I’m not a huge jewelry person, so my nails are my jewels. I keep them done and feel naked with them bare. Lol! I know. You can do this for yourself if you’re talented and like to save coins. Or, you can invest in some quiet time while somebody else pampers you. These range from 30-55 bucks, so plan on investing in your self care and live a little.
- Catch a movie by yourself or with the kids
I know. Not usual tips for Mother’s Day, but sometimes we need to break the mold and do something we love, like, or need. You can do this on Saturday or catch a Sunday matinee. Whatever you do, have a blast. And if you haven’t seen Avengers, (OMG!!) go see it. Amazing! I saw it with my boys and it was fun. This is just about the last tradition we have. They are not trying to hang with me. You know. Teens. So, do what you need and love on you.So, make memories. Have a movie night.
- Trade weekends with a family member or friend and relax
I know you’re gonna fight me on this, so you don’t have to do it Mother’s Day, but maybe Friday or Saturday or some other day. But, learn how to split baby watching duties so you can have a quiet night home or a fun adult night out. Taking turns watching the kids was a way for me to get social when my boys were young and be able to hold an adult conversation every once in a while. My moms with littles know what I mean. Haha! Sometimes just being able to tinkle without a “What you doing?” means soooo much.
- Take yourself to dinner, brunch with the girls, or potluck at your place
I know every holiday, I cook because I want good food. But, over the years, I learned to allow myself a break. So, Sunday will be crowded. How about brunch with the girls on Saturday or with the kids? You can also have all your single mom sisters come over and you each bring a dish. The kids play and you all get to chat and be adults. A win win!
- Do something about your desire to bring love into your life
You can launch your online dating profile this Mother’s Day. Outside the box, right? Listen, I know some of you are shy and need to tip toe back into dating, so this is an easy way to meet people. Now, beware some dudes are just waiting on the mom who is tired of being single. But, if you’re in a space to receive and be good love, it’s time to start checking your options. On and off line. Activate that profile.
- Do nothing
Mama, my Mother’s Day typically begins with prayer when I wake up, church at Bedside Baptist or in person. I love to worship with the rest of the saints, so I foresee us going to church and brunch. But, when my body and soul needs a “do nothing” day, I oblige. I have learned to rest and to stop people pleasing. Listen, you are the leader of your life and you must stop waiting on life to show up and take life by the horns. Then, you will begin to bring forth what you really desire.
I pray this post has given you ideas but has also reactivated your desire to live your best life and to honor you on a day designed to honor those of us who are called mom by some little people all over the world. Remember, you have an amazing job, you amazing woman. Do what you need so you can keep doing that job well.
From me and my boys to you and your babies, I wish you the happiest Mother’s Day yet! Were these tips helpful? Write me back and let me know how you will love on you this holiday and beyond!
