I’ve heard it time and time again, “With me and my kids’ busy schedules I don’t have time to date.” A few months of that attitude, and you’ll be looking around after a year saying, “I can’t believe I haven’t been on not ONE date in over a year.” No worries, Momma. I have first date idea to get you back into the swing of things, so you can meet someone worth changing your schedule or missing Empire.

I got you covered, mama.

See, it isn’t that you don’t have time to date. It’s that you haven’t gotten to know someone that inspires you to make time to fit them into your busy schedule. Grab my my first date idea and it’ll surely keep you on track!

First Date Idea for Single Moms 

Meet for a Quick Lunch 

No matter where you work, you get a lunch break. Assuming you work for at least five days a week, that is five (count them 5) times a week you can fit in a first date. Listen, we like to give men a hard time because they seem to date a lot. Why not take a page from the fellas and keep it light and go on a coffee date? You’re already out together for work. For my professional ladies, you are probably already dressed to kill. For my uniform babes, you can make a quick change into something that is easy to get in and out of that makes you feel like a diva. I love a nice shift dress and a heel.

Meet for Happy Hour

Happy Hour time is about 4 pm to 7 pm in most cities. It varies. But, this is during the time when most of you get off work. Instead of rushing home, get off a little earlier and let the kids go to after school care until it closes or arrange for a sitter, family, or friends you trust to pick them up. Get in a nice early evening for your first date and go home all smiles just. Or, pre-arrange to get them home and to the sitter or switch babysitting duty with a friend girl you trust. She watches your kids while you go feel like a woman and enjoy male company and vice versa when it’s her turn. (By the way, this was my go-to method when my boys were younger.)

And let’s face it, some guys want to go dutch (I don’t believe in dutch myself), but some girls prefer it.  It’s dutch, so they don’t feel obligated (I don’t know how a meal equates to your body but …), and we know how some (small percentage) dudes try to skip out. If any of this happens, you got your half, you ate good, and now you know who you won’t be seeing again. But, what if it’s magical? Well, you just had a chance to share a little of your charm before you head home to wind down, or you can make it a longer evening and go bowling or dancing, etc. 

Have a Breakfast Date Instead

“Good morning, beautiful.” Don’t you just love getting that text from someone you actually like? Well, what about in the morning before work? Let your job, know you’ll be in around 9:30 am, drop the kids off as early as the school will allow and use the time before you get into the rat race to get to know a possible new beau. Now, I would just take a half a day, but if your workplace is flexible, get it in, girl. Besides, breakfast is fun, not as packed, it’s a chill morn and then it’s also a set time cause you got thangs to do and hopefully, so does he.

There you have it, honey! You have time for what you make a priority. No excuses, you have to take steps to go after the things you say you want. And be creative!! Just because it is lunchtime, doesn’t mean you can’t go to a museum. Just because it’s happy hour, doesn’t mean you can’t do an early dinner instead. And finally, just because it’s breakfast time, doesn’t mean you can’t meet in a park for a stroll with coffee. 

And just because you have kids, it’s not the end of your dating life as you know it. You can still date with confidence as a single mom! There are good guys still looking for a good woman. You don’t have to believe the hype or accept less than you deserve because you have kids. Some men are elevated enough to understand a good woman when he sees it.

Listen Linda, you got this! Be open to new things to have a new life. I have something to give you a pretty shaved leg up HERE. Feeling less confident even after reading my great first date idea? Grab my 2-week Dating Confidence Course and get your entire life made. It includes coaching from me, my signature “Love Plan” so you can figure out exactly who you are and who you really want to attract, and get an audio interview with a stylist, and a What to Wear Wardrobe Guide for your first date for your body type. Yeah, you are about to have some fun sis!   

Use these tips with that one special guy or mix and mingle with different beaus. No matter what, increase your confidence and learn to attract good love. Go get em!